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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ProblemSulver on 2023-08-10 20:30:24.
Background: When my wife and I first met, we talked about our dreams and aspirations. She originally had ambitions of being successful business or private sector. But after we tied the knot, she had a change of heart and decided she wanted to teach. We live in a state notorious for its underfunded schools, so I expressed my concerns, thinking she’d struggle and be unhappy. Even with my reservations and having to pay for her degree, she became a teacher and has been at it for 4 years now.
The problem: She’s miserable and so am I. She always vents about her challenging students, which can sometimes border on dangerous behavior. It’s become a nightly ritual that’s driving a wedge between us. I dread it. Part of me just wants to say, “I told you so,” but I’ve held my tongue. Since she became a teacher we rarely have sex or become romantic. However, on Monday night, after hearing the same ole complaints for the thousandth time, I snapped and told her to shut up about it. It sparked an argument and then we went to bed. Since she’s been silent ever since and it’s becoming very petty and i know it can also explode.
So, AITA?