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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Gurumom1985 on 2023-08-11 07:30:40.
Finding myself (36F) in an awkward situation in my marriage. I have been married to my husband (38M) for 5 years and we have 3 kids. We are happily married. He is very loving and caring to me and the kids, no doubts there, he is a great dad and husband. Problem is now and then he wets the bed at night. When it first happened, I didn’t even know how to react, I felt embarrassed to talk about it with him. The next morning he took out the sheets and cleaned everything up. Then it continued to happen; sometimes once a week sometimes every other week. And I have been understanding and empathetic for the most part hoping this phase of his would come to pass. Background: He lost his full time job 18 months ago and has been between jobs since then. so he does Uber now and then while learning to become a realtor. Well for almost two years now I have been the main bread winner and we live in a high cost county. Not sure if this is the reason for the blow-out bed wetting but recently he wet the bed again and I blew out on him that night, screaming at the top of my voice and told him he should never sleep on this bed again with me unless he solves his issue. Next day he was back to himself again. Very kind and caring and since then he sleeps in the guest room. I am so confused! Am I the asshole? Has anyone been in a similar situation? What should I do? I love my husband so dearly and would die for him.