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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/wiredtels on 2023-08-11 06:10:14.
Trigger warning: pregnancy, abortion
I am in a commited relationship with my bf (same age) and we found out today that we are almost 5 weeks pregnant.
We are both in our final semester of uni & have well paying grad jobs lined up in half year. We’ve been together for a year now and also living together with his family. I am 100% certain he is my person for life and so is he.
However, I don’t think I feel ready. I want children with him one day but I can’t imagine going through pregnancy right now. I had this whole plan in my head, getting married, getting our own place, both earning money & saving/investing, using my degree I studied so hard for and just in general enjoying life a little longer just the two of us.
Then there’s another voice in my head, that there’s never a right time, that I might regret this, that it might ruin our relationship, that a career isnt a reason enough that I could have the child & still do the job fulltime etc. that I’m just being selfish. That I might never be able to have one again. I’m just so lost and torn.
My boyfriend is nothing but supportive, shares the same thoughts as me. We’ve made pro and cons lists and are bit more for abortion it’s just so hard.
I’d love to hear other peoples opinions and experiences that have been in a similar boat.