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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Tgrow1993 on 2023-08-11 00:23:09.
My husband has a daughter(9) and a son(7). Their mother is very very crazy. The children have asked my husband if they could be with my husband full time and he has been collecting evidence for at least 3 months.
She wasn’t this crazy before, we weren’t friends or anything, but we could have a civil conversation. Her partner ended their relationship and she just completely changed. I feel like she’s taking all the anger out on me.
In past 5 months she’s come to our home multiple times to scream at me and call me all sorts of insults. Luckily she does not do this when the kids are over. She’s screamed at me twice in public, and has harassed me online for months now. She screams at me that she does not want me around her kids.
I’ve kept it together for his children for the past 5/6 months now, but I’m truly tired of her. My husband keeps saying to hold on for just a bit. Not to sound impatient, but how long does it take to prove that she’s an insane and unfit parent.
She yelled at me for the second time this past Sunday in a grocery store, and she repeated that I’m a slut, that I’m pretending to be nice and I shouldn’t be around her kids. I ended up walking away and going home. I told my husband that I’m going to do as she wishes and stay at hotel every time the kids are here. He begged me not to do that and to keep together for the kids, it’s already taking a toll on them.
My sister told me that I’m selfish for even suggesting this solution and that I should just keep it together like my husband said. I’m genuinely over it, this is the second time she’s publicly humiliated and I just want this to end. WIBTA?