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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/quietfish442 on 2023-08-10 23:15:09.

29F here. I have plenty of dating experience under my belt, and usually am pretty good at spotting red flags. I spent a few weeks talking to a guy from Hinge and thought we were really hitting things off. We had a ton in common, and he is one of the super feminist-y types, so I felt safe around him. After a few dates, we finally do the deed and it’s nothing short of amazing. I can’t think of a better sexual experience I’ve ever had. He says the experience is amazing for him as well, he tells me I’m special. We make plans to see one another again and have another great time in bed, followed by a cute dinner date. We talk about meeting up again and then… He ghosts me :/

I’m feeling super super crushed and hurt by the whole situation. I’ve had hookups and relationships alike before and am generally a very good judge of character… I haven’t been ghosted or rejected before because I’m usually pretty careful about not getting entangled with people who are unavailable. My emotional attraction to people only comes after I feel that they’ve indicated a certain level of emotional interest too. I suppose the passionate sex and him cooking for me at every date gave me a false sense of emotional intimacy?

Compounding the hurt is the fact that we’re both graduate students at the same school. We’re in different programs but our buildings share a parking lot where we keep running into each other and making eye contact but not speaking. I have no idea why he would suddenly ghost me :/ Any ladies that have dealt with this before? Is this just what modern dating is today?