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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Loud-Lab-2653 on 2023-08-10 13:06:17.
I (F29) am in a group holiday with my fiancé and three other couples. We are renting a big villa. This story concerns my friend Casey (30) and her boyfriend Josh (30).
For context, I don’t hate Josh, but he requires a firm approach. He will try his “brutal honesty” stuff on you to see if you’ll let him get away with it, but once you show him you won’t put up with it, he calms down. That said, he’s prone to some stupid remarks.
So, yesterday we were all having a relaxed day by the pool. I came out of the house in my bikini and Josh wolf whistled and said “damn I really chose the wrong friend” loud enough for everyone to hear. Without missing a beat I turned to him and said “why are you acting like you had your pick of the litter? I would never have looked at you twice and you know it”.
Josh laughed off the comment and and went back to reading his book, but Casey pulled me inside and yelled at me for embarrassing her and Josh. She said what I said was demeaning and I basically called Josh ugly. I was pretty stunned because actually I think what happened was Josh called me a piece of meat. We argued and I basically said that I wasn’t responsible for her boyfriend’s crass behaviour and went back outside.
Casey is still giving me the cold shoulder, as well as the three people who told her she was overreacting. It’s making everything awkward. I don’t think I’m in the wrong here but some of the group have said I was overly cutting with what I said, considering Josh was already out of line. Basically they said I joined him in the gutter. My fiancé says both Casey and Josh are nut jobs.
Am I the one who took it too far?