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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Dry-Character-9469 on 2023-08-09 13:25:07.
I (58F) have two kids. Elizabeth (28F) and Michael (26M). Sadly, Michael was diagnosed with autism when he was just two. He is pretty easy to get along with and is a lovely person overall. He throws tantrums or acts really stubborn just occasionally.
Elizabeth moved away at 18 for college. She visits us sometimes and we keep in touch via calls. Visits naturally became less frequent over time and she hasn’t been home since last Christmas. Last week she called and asked if it would be okay for her to come home for a few days. We were thrilled.
However, she said she would be staying at a hotel and would only like to see me and my husband at a restaurant outside. I was heartbroken that she didn’t want to include Michael. I asked her to please visit us at home so she could see her brother as well. She is not having it.
I asked her why she made this decision. She said she wanted a peaceful evening with her parents. I told her she needed to see her brother too since we’re all a family and we need to stick together. Elizabeth told me to never mind, that she wasn’t coming and that she made a mistake.
I feel really bad for making her cancel the trip. My husband agreed with me that she shouldn’t act like this towards Michael. A few other relatives say we were wrong and we should’ve agreed with her terms. I am asking you reddit AITA?