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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/After_Sell6421 on 2023-08-09 11:49:24.
My partner (55M) and I (35F) went out to dinner this evening following another unexpected obstacle/ false alarm. My partner has a habit of asking a series of very insistent questions which is anxiety provoking for me. First, he asked what dish was served to a neighboring table asking again in another way after I responded with “I don’t know.” And I had to repeat my response adding “it looks like fettuccini” and that seemed to satisfy him. Then he began asking about the plans for tomorrow that we had already reviewed. He asked about activity A, the starting time, the duration, the ending time and the start time of the next activity. Meanwhile I had just loaded a taco full of delicious food and I was doing my best to respond to all of his questions while attempting to finish the taco before the contents dripped down my arms. Then he asked how far activity A was from activity B and I said: “I don’t know, I can look it up (again) later but right now I am eating.” He seemed to be offended by that and asked again. At this point I started losing my mind saying “I don’t fucking know.” And when he still wouldn’t let me finish my taco in peace, I explained: “I have been giving you subtle, nonverbal hints that right now is not the time to ask me these questions because I am eating and you’re not picking up on any of my hints.”
He stood up furious, asked me how dare I treat him that way and let me know that I would be walking home. On the way to the door, he paused, looked back at me saying “Are you going to apologize?” And when I turned away from him, he left the restaurant.