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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/DINNERHUNBBY on 2023-08-08 21:39:56.
AITA for wanting my bf to cook after he invited more people than planned?
My (23F) boyfriend (25M) and I were supposed to host a dinner for us and another couple we met on vacation tomorrow. I’m supposed to be in charge of the cooking.
2 days ago, before going to work, my boyfriend tells me that he forgot to tell me that he invited our neighbors and their 3 children. I was kinda annoyed he didn’t asked me first but whatever, I said okay, next time,ask me if I’m okay with it first.
After coming home from work the same day, he tells me that he invited two of his colleagues and that they’ll come with their wives and kids. They have one kid each so that’ll make 2 more children.
I got upset when he told me this because 1. He invited 6 more people without asking me first, again, and 2. He told me that I needed to make a different dish for his colleagues’s kids because they won’t like what I’m planning to cook.
I told my boyfriend that he needed to be the one cooking because I didn’t want to anymore. He asks me why as I initially agreed to cook.
I said I initially agreed to cook for 4 people not 15. I added that it’ll be easier for him to cook for 15 people anyways because he has his whole afternoon free while I’d be working until 4pm.
My boyfriend doesn’t agree tho and thinks it’s unfair of me to have agreed to cook just to take it back last minute.
I said I’d be okay to help with the kids’ food once I come back from work but he needed to do the rest.
He doesn’t want to and even threatened to cancel the whole thing if I wasn’t cooking.
Am I the AH there? Should I be the one cooking still as I was supposed to cook from the beginning? Or is it only fair that he cooks for the additional 11 people he invited?