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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Dont_stop_smiling on 2023-08-07 19:26:28.
My husband and I have become friends with another couple (MF). Husbands get along really well, found an instant bro-hood and it’s great to see them get along on so many levels (my husband is introverted so he doesn’t make new friends so often). His wife, let’s call her Sarah, is nice, well educated and successful. We get along just fine and can hold a conversation well, but she has now become comfortable enough to be very competitive, and conversation is very one sided. I’m also very educated and successful in my career, however I don’t flaunt or talk about these things, because I don’t judge others on these kind of successes. I’m very extroverted, with a lot of happy energy and just love being around people and I love to listen, however Sarah is really starting to be exhausting, as it’s now turned into a one-upping conversation. Like I’m happy for her achieving a lot of things but it’s never really said in context to what the conversation is about, nor is there any background or lead up to the achievement. She kinda just says things in reaction to anything I say. It’s annoying because I feel she only asks how I’ve am in order to find an excuse to one up me. if I’m travelling interstate for a conference, she’s travelling to Paris to be a speaker for a conference, if I’ve had a win in academia she’s had a bigger better win more times. I don’t think she is lying but it’s certainly getting a bit boring chatting to her now as conversations are very one sided.
Can’t us ladies just be happy for each other without making it a competition.