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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ellie___ on 2023-08-07 20:12:35.
So yeah, as per title, I (22f) am not very “feminine”… man I hate that these labels are even things which correspond to other things but I’ll use them for the sake of convenience.
I’m not what you’d call super butch. I have quite long hair, and I wear things like leggings and crop tops sometimes. However I don’t wear dresses and skirts in public. In some ways I wish I was comfortable enough to do this as I think they’re so pretty. I just don’t really like wearing them. I also don’t wear cleavage tops, handbags, heels, or normally makeup. Again - just not for me.
I don’t feel insecure in myself. I like how I present and dress, and I like how it makes me feel. Just today, I saw a guy on the street and thought how cool his outfit looked. Then I realised he was wearing the same shorts as me haha, and it made me so happy.
I just feel like my boyfriend (25m) wishes I was more feminine. In fact I know he does, at least to an extent, and it makes me so sad, because I can’t comfortably do that. I have been like this since I was quite young, and I honestly don’t foresee it changing. I don’t mind dressing up for him at home sometimes, but I don’t think I want to go out like that. If I try to talk to him about this he’ll say something like “oh but you look so pretty in that”. But that’s not the issue. The issue is that I simply feel uncomfortable and not like myself.
Also I foresee this being an issue when dating men in general, which also makes me sad. I do also like women. But I’ve come to realise I feel a stronger attraction to men. So i probably prefer being with them in some ways. Who knows though, I’ve never actually been with a woman. But yeah, I guess I will never meet most mens’ girlfriend standards.