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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/sjk0128 on 2023-08-07 16:22:15.
I (27F) dated this guy (32M) for 7 months and I always enjoyed the sex we had. I thought it was great and that we were having fun but I decided to break up with him for other reasons that mainly surrounded communication issues. I asked so many times for him to direct me in bed an I wanted him to let me know what he needed but he never directed me and said he enjoyed himself.
We hooked up spontaneously a few months afterwards and he was saying that he missed me and called me baby and all that stuff which I questioned really. I asked him to keep the sex a secret and he promised he would do that. He then immediately went and told his friend that we had sex but he didn’t see me expecting sex that day. He said that he just finds my body really attractive and that the sex was not that great for him and then he compared me to other partners. I feel disgusting and like an object and I feel like my self esteem was impacted. I don’t know how to describe how upset I feel.
I’m also confused cause I didn’t initiate, he did, and now I’m questioning why he liked me in the first place. I don’t care about him just wanting to hook up if that’s the case cause I wasn’t expecting much to come from it and I never wanted to rekindle things but I’m hurt about the fact he views me like an object.
I found out from the friend btw.