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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Purple-Apple-234 on 2023-08-07 05:46:00.
My partner/boyfriend (M, 50s) of 5 years just told me (F, 40s) he no longer finds me attractive since my brain surgery that caused me to lose one eye. So he has gotten a mistress in her 20s for sex.
I have an eyepatch now and probably will for the rest of my life. But really!!!
I’m not even sure what to do with this.
I’m still recovering so can’t quite leave yet (we live together). But I’m just in shock.
Besides the 10 pounds I gained and the eye patch. I look the same as I did when we started dating.
I’m a former model but I wasn’t when we met. I did my best to find a man that I thought wasn’t with me solely for my looks (cause I knew one day they would go).
The irony is I stood with him through chemo. He lost his hair and then he gained 25 pounds and I still made sure he felt desirable.
Im mad at myself for letting this put me in a deep depression. My surgery was a two months ago.Strangers still compliment me on my looks… I graciously say thank you and move on. So I still believe at least one man will still find me attractive with an eyepatch.
But I just feel awful cause this one person who Ive shared my life with looks at me with disgust. So I cry and then I get mad at myself for crying.
I keep thinking he is crazy but that doesn’t stop the tears.
So I guess I’m just asking for encouragement from people who are on the other side of leaving an unappreciative partner and now with a good one. And really any encouragement.
I know I’ll get to the other side. But right now this stinks.