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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/wine_coffee_books on 2023-08-07 02:37:49.
I (20F) broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years (22M) and I’m really doubting my decision. I walked away because I could not live with the man he quite often turnes into when he gets angry. He stated multiple times that, when his feelings take over, he can’t trust me, or control his words. Therefore, he has said some incredibly hurtful things in the past while being in a state of anger, which he always regretted and apologised for later though. I don’t want to be with someone who purposefully tries to hurt me when being angry, but I feel like I can’t blame him for something he cannot control. I don’t know if this is weaponized incompetence or not, since he was trying to work on it with a therapist. I almost never get angry (surely not so strongly) so I don’t really know if it is normal for an angry person to say things they ABSOLUTELY do not mean. I am also quite sensitive to anget due to past trauma, and my ex always thought it was unfair that I could not put up with his anger so well because of my trauma. I am confused and lost, I feel a bit free and yet so guilty. Has anyone experienced something like that in their relationship?
Edit: typo