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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/lilbeanbabe on 2023-08-06 14:34:08.
Long story short, our marriage has hit a rough patch we have been working through over about a year or so. Communication has been an issue, but we’ve been working through healthy ways of dealing with it. We’re both in our early 30s.
However, recently he made a comment that I just can’t shake. He said that all our interactions over the past several months have been hollow and fake and our conversations have no real substance.
I just felt so invalidated by that, and I’ve been on edge with literally everything I do and say because of it. I’ve been trying super hard to not raise my voice or use a tone when we’ve had harder talks while he’s yelled and cursed nearly every single time. But he says he feels like he’s walking on eggshells, even though when I get too overloaded and need to come back to the conversation he asks multiple times to make sure we do talk again. He’s been making snarky comments in front of our friends (over a call) about how I’ve taken care of our cat after she got sick and I’ve had my friends comment about that to me.
I just don’t know what to think. I thought I was trying but I guess I’m not doing it well enough. I’m not sure how to even approach this with him to be honest.