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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/painsive on 2023-08-06 06:56:30.
the whole “swipe on everybody without reading their profile and then read later if you match” thing straight up ruins dating apps imo
in my case, i’m trans. i’m very open about it on my profiles, it’s the first thing on there. it makes me extremely picky about who i match with (i only swipe people that have swiped me first).
i feel like i should be able to use these apps like this with the assumption that these guys actually want to speak to me and are not bothered about that. except instead i’ve had conversations where they somehow didn’t realise i was trans until days later (and then they unmatched), or they just don’t even respond to the first message / they’ll unmatch immediately
it upsets me, it’s super demotivating and makes me want to give up on them. it took me such a long time to work up the courage to make a profile and it’s honestly just disappointing
if they just took an extra 5 seconds to read peoples profiles, they’d still match with who they wanted to and wouldn’t waste their own or anyone else’s time. i don’t know who the hell came up with the idea that more swipes = more matches. i guess technically but you’re not going to get any extra matches that you’d actually want??
i don’t know how anyone has the energy for dating apps when 90% of men don’t bother even trying to use them properly. gah