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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/indicaindabed on 2023-08-06 03:50:37.
i added a guy from tinder on snapchat a couple days ago. he didnt message back on snapchat until last night. i hadnt really thought about it much and have been talking with other people. he sent me a snap last night just before midnight (red flag #1). i was like “huh, gross time to do that” before i even opened it.
it was a picture of him saying “im not drunk” which confused me a lot because we had barely exchanged 5 messages 3 days prior and none of them were about alcohol. probably a snap meant for someone else. i said “???” to which he said “what?” and took a second to respond to the message i had sent two days before. i said “i just dont know why youre saying youre not drunk, we havent talked in two days and it seemed random.” he said “you didnt snap me” to which i said “you didnt reply to my last message” and he said “i did reply (bro yeah you did two minutes ago not two days ago wtf??), ive been busy idk why youre overthinking this” and i tried to explain that this took no overuse of thought, i was just letting him know why i was confused. no judgement on why he didnt message, im really busy myself! i had so much going on this week i genuinely couldnt have cared less!
it was just neon red, everywhere i looked, all over the place. he’s cute, sure, but so am i and this was screaming gaslighting and manipulation. he clearly didnt mean to snap me, then tried to make me feel crazy for being confused by his snap and “overthinking.”
i felt myself go from
“hes really cute i should just keep trying to explain, maybe he just doesnt get where im coming from”
to
“he knows exactly what hes doing, hes used to this working for him, and i know better than to let this cycle happen again with some random asshole from tinder.”
so i said to him that there was no overuse of thought processing, but i did realize that he was not my type and wished him good luck in whatever he was searching for. unmatched and blocked a minute after i saw he opened it.
slept like a baby. :)