This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.
The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Background-Rise958 on 2023-08-05 17:57:25.
My wife left me and our kids a couple of years ago. She wanted a different life than what we had. She bought a converted van and tried to become a “vanlife” influencer. She got some followers but not as many as it takes to be able to live off of it I guess.
She is in the city right now and her van needs repairs. We are in the middle of a heat wave and she needs a place to stay for a week or two.
This is only the second time in two years she has bothered to see our kids. I have done my best to make sure that they know that even though their mom is gone it isn’t because she doesn’t love them. I said she was working far away. Even after the divorce I made sure she could have all the visitation she wanted.
She doesn’t want to stay with her parents because they are very critical of her choice to leave. She doesn’t want to stay at a hotel because it will be a dent in her budget.
I don’t want her in my house because I don’t want the kids to freak out when she leaves again. It’s best if they see her in a neutral location.
I volunteered to take her dogs so she could stay at a hostel. She said I was an asshole for not letting her stay in a house she helped pay for. I bought out her equity when we divorced. It wasn’t that much.
My parents said I should have let her stay. The woman I’m seeing said that she would have understood if I let her stay.
I just know what it would do to my kids.