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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/kaleigha on 2023-08-05 17:10:39.

I asked for advice in the past about the best way to shave the bikini area for optimal results. I have been following those instructions and it has made no difference. I also let the pubic hair grow out for a considerable amount of time to try this to ensure I have no in-grown hairs anywhere and no skin irritation. Here is my current process:

I use baby oil all over the area to soften the hair.

I enter the shower and use exfoliant.

I use a men’s shaving cream on the area.

I use a brand new disposable razor that generally speaking leaves my skin feeling incredibly smooth in other areas.

I get out of the shower and after patting dry with a towel, I use rubbing alcohol on the area, which has a very mild burn at some spots which hinted to me it was definitely closing pores.

I wipe an unscented dove deodorant stick on the area sparingly to avoid sweat and irritation.

I have done all these steps and I am left with a bunch of unattractive red spots all over my bikini area anyway. It has the exact same skin sensitivity to past shaves: I feel like I can’t shave the area again for at least a week after and the same ugly red bumps are present within 12 hours.

For the record, I am someone who has very very minimal allergies (lucky me) so I didn’t really consider that to be an affective element here.

What am I doing wrong? I had waited so long to let everything grow in and have no in-growns to get a wax, only to go against my better judgement and try this method instead, only to wish I’d just waxed and not done this.

This is seriously affecting my sex life. I refuse to let my boyfriend look at my vagina during sex (if I can even bring myself to have it without feeling ugly) and I haven’t allowed myself to be eaten out in a very long, long time. I have lost all confidence toward being “sexy”. My boyfriend doesn’t make me feel this way, I just literally can’t not think about it in regards to sex. And I refuse to go swimming with people this summer and just wear shorts and a bikini top to sit by the pool.

I’m miserable and I can’t really afford routine waxing on the budget I’m on right now anyway… should I just accept I’ll a never have a porn star vagina?