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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/General-Road1033 on 2023-08-05 03:53:17.

My husband and I have 4 kids, 3 are grown and out the house, there’s only 1 child left until we’re empty nesters

My oldest struggled with infertility and miscarriages for the past 4 years and so when 1 pregnancy looked promising everyone was extremely excited

Still wanting to be careful before physically and emotionally, we all decided not to have a baby shower and things like that, we also kept visits limited with plans of having a giant first birthday party once the baby turned 1, so for the past year everyone has been prepping for the party

A couple months back, a family in our community was struggling, they needed a place to stay for a while and since we’re basically empty nesters, we decided to let them stay with us, only thing they are in charge of is their own food

Our grandchild’s first birthday party was 2 weeks ago we hosted it at our house since we have a lot of space and a big backyard,

They were welcome to join in but chose to stay in the rooms most of the days. Sometime during the party. My youngest overheard them complain, saying that we were doing too much for a first birthday,saying it’s just a first birthday it’s not a big deal and basically saying the baby “wasn’t special enough” for us to being doing all that.

Last weekend was one of their kids birthday, my husband and I got the kid a gift but didn’t plan anything, when we asked if they had anything planned, the mother said, I thought you guys were going to throw my kid a party as well, I don’t remember every saying we will but I asked if we said we would. She said no but she just assumed we will

I apologize saying no we didn’t have a party planned but I’d be happy to pay for them to go out to eat or go to an arcade or something. She said no and that they had other plans.

We thought that was the end of it but for the next couple of days we kept on hearing people talk, they were telling basically and mutual connection we had, that we were mistreating them and making them feel less than. They tried turning people we knew against us,

It worked for some but eventually the news made it back to us and when we confronted her about it. At first she got defensive but I had proof so eventually she admitted it and started crying

I told her that, it seems as if this living situation isn’t working out for us and so we’d like for them to start preparing to move out in the next 2-3 months. The next day my family went out and when we came back, their rooms were completely empty, they also took things from the house that weren’t there’s.

Apparently they went to a motel and started telling those same people that we kicked them out, because they made a comment we didn’t like, we’ve had several people contact us and say how disappointed they were and others just wanting to hear our side of the story.