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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Internal-Tomorrow-64 on 2023-08-05 03:58:39.
Me (28f) and my twin sister (28f) have always been super close. Let’s call her Jane. Ever since Jane met her now husband “Kane” (29m), we’ve drifted apart. In our family we have yearly family reunions and at one of them 3 years ago, Jane announced her pregnancy with my now 3 year old niece “Jaya”.
During her pregnancy I would visit over her house often with my mom and other siblings to check in on her and the baby but I started to notice things that were off about this. For one, she would still drink and smoke which Kane would encourage and even buy the stuff and bring it back to her. When I brought this up, she told me she was going to stop but on multiple other occasions I caught her doing the same thing.
After Jaya we born it got even worse. At one point, I came to their house to drop some gifts off that my parents weren’t able to bring to the birth and the house was filled with smoke and Jane left my niece crying in the living room on an old play pad from when we were younger. I was outraged and my breaking point was when they asked me to babysit jaya for a night since they were going on a date and didn’t come back to get her for over a week.
I couldn’t let them neglect their daughter anymore it was so painful to watch so I took them to court and ended up filing custody over Jaya. Half of my family is glad I now have custody over her due to the fact me and my boyfriend already have 1 kid of our own who adores Jaya but the other half thinks it was wrong of me to do that because it was their kid. I see where I could be in the wrong but I didn’t know what to do so I posted this. So Reddit, AITAH?