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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Delicious_Housing673 on 2023-08-05 02:15:10.
During our relationship, I supported my (ex) boyfriends passions. I opened a line of credit at a store and let him use the card for supplies. He always made a monthly payment on time.
Well, we broke up and it wasn’t on good terms. An abusive drunk doesn’t make for a good partner and alcoholics are known for using friends and family for benefits.
During his last belligerent tirade, he threatened to take everything from me in court (we have a child together and I’m make double his income).
I don’t take threats lightly, whether they came from a drunk person’s lips or not. I especially don’t need threats from an entitled man-child when I’m the one that provides 7/8ths of support and nurturing for our child.
Accepting that he’s an alcoholic and a covert narcissist (he plays the victim, hates being held accountable, and wants to sweep everything under the rug the next day), I decided to break up for good and it’s been GREAT!
However, I closed my account and paid off the remaining balance (that he accrued), without letting him know.
Well, he hit me up with a sarcastic message about not letting him know ahead of time that the account was closed, that his gear needed to be replaced for some big event, etc. Since I’m not his girlfriend anymore, I didn’t feel obligated to support him. I didn’t reply much until…
He followed up by saying he didn’t believe I would be this petty and it would have been nice to have communicated that I closed the account.
Did I owe him a heads up? Am I being petty here?
Tl;dr
Ex boyfriend is pissed off I closed a credit account he used for his own hobbies because I no longer feel obligated to support him. We did not end on good terms. Am I the asshole?