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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Joygernaut on 2023-08-04 22:44:30.

I am in my 40s and I have a great job and I’m doing pretty well financially. I have recently moved some money around and I’m in the process of buying a second house(planning to rent out the first house, where I currently live and have lived for 20 years). A little backstory. I bought my current house when I was in my early 20s. It was a tiny little fixer-upper, but I had saved about $5000 from jobs I’ve had since I was 15 and didn’t want to just rent somewhere. I was recently separated, and had a three-year-old and a baby. Nobody helped fund this purchase. It was all me. My parents did not cosign the mortgage or give me money.

Fast forward 20 years, my children are grown up, the house is pretty much paid for, and now I have an opportunity to invest in another house. I have worked my ass off all of these years with no help from ex-husband or parents. I’ve been frugal and good with my money and I’m ready to move to a different place and launch a new chapter of my life.

Anyway, my dad and I had a conversation a few days ago on the phone (just catching up and say hello which we do every few weeks), he asked me what is new and I tell him that I am in the purchase process with a new home. Instead of being excited for me, he was so disdainful about the whole thing. Even when is far to say is “what if you meet him and decide to get married? Don’t you think you’ll be intimidated by the fact that you have two houses?” No joke.

I have an older brother and every time my older brother has a success like this he is always bragging about it, but whenever I have a success, he always down plays at or criticizes it . Always.

I’m so tired of it. It’s like he’s so disappointed that I didn’t remarried and have a guy paying the bills. I also want to mention that my father has never been good with money, and all of my financial skills required for books because I didn’t want to end up like my dad and still be in debt in my 70s.