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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Tuulikki11 on 2023-08-04 19:16:13.
I my husband and I just reached out first year of marriage, we have been together for 3 years and im not sure where this started but he feels like he is not heard. I have a very bad habit of interrupting especially when it comes to arguments, I tend to not only interrupt but react during that time. He will say one thing and I will interpret it differently. Usually worse case and get defensive. Im not sure when it started but I’ve noticed I wasn’t always defensive with him but it’s just getting worse and I assume it’s a mixture between hormones and lack of sleep. I probably only get 4 hours of sleep broken up each night because my son breastfeeds so you can imagine how that’s taking a toll on my mental health. I feel like a shell of myself, im not really there but way too present at the same time.
I don’t know how to stop this. Im starting to “communicate” how my mother does which is not very well and thinks everyone is against her and doesn’t actually listen or just interprets things backwards. Has anyone else experienced this?
It’s gotten so bad that he will just not say anything most times now because he is so tired of trying to get through to me. He’s miserable, depressed and stressed. I mean I am too but im trying to work on myself so he doesn’t feel this way. Im not really afraid of him leaving because we have our son, im more afraid he will end up staying because we have a child.