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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Local_Honeydew on 2023-08-04 15:59:56.

My friend (M47) and I (F43) booked to go to an island we’d both been keen to go to. We booked a 2 bed cabin and because of the popularity of the place we had to book and pay 10 months in advance. We split to cost 50/50.

2 months before we are due to go, he meets someone and they commence dating. The holiday comes up, and understandably she was a bit uncomfortable with him coming with me. I was given an ultimation - either she comes or the entire holiday is called off. I didn’t say yes immediately, because I needed to check with the accommodation as the island has a limited number of guests allowed and I needed the okay from them first. My hesitation wasn’t taken well, they thought I wasn’t keen.

I got back to them within 24 hours and said I’d gotten the all clear for his girlfriend to also come and she could book plane tickets for her. A week later he informed me she had the tickets, and I asked him we we could discuss re-balancing the accommodation costs now that there was 3 of us coming - as it should now be a three way split.

I was surprised that he responded with anger. As far as he was concerned the accommodation was paid for and it was wrong and greedy of me to expect money from his girlfriend. He told me that he was paying for the entire holiday for his girlfriend, so it was still going to be just him and me paying, so it was unfair of me to not pay for half. I told him that there’s three adults, 3 people, three way split - if he chose to pay for his girlfriends third that was his choice and nothing to do with me.

He told me his girlfriend was going to buy me a cocktail to say thank you for the accommodation, but if I was going to insist on a split then I could forget it and buy my own “damn cocktails” as he couldn’t beleive I was being so selfish.

The thing is, a cocktail is $15, and I was currently covering half her accommodation costs ~ $600.

I don’t think I was an asshole asking her/them to cover her share of the accommodation. I hadn’t even met her yet, but they thought I should cover her costs because it was already paid for. AITA for insisting she pay for her component of the cost?