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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/catmuggy on 2023-08-04 15:55:02.
I have a theory on why so many men are convinced that essentially harassing or abusing women with sexually inappropriate images, messages, or insults is an effective tactic in the first few moments of trying to sleep with a woman - it works.
Just not on most women - only the most vulnerable.
There’s a theory in cyber security that scammers who send grammatically incorrect and obviously fake phishing emails benefit from doing this intentionally. This is because the errors weed out those “smart” enough to avoid the initial stage of the scam, and are therefore more likely to continue into the scam long term. “Smart” here often is just synonymous with educated on phishing tactics, or internet standards, and isn’t someone vulnerable or somehow incapacitated (hence why elderly people are often victims).
I feel like unsolicited dick pics, verbal abuse and other instant red flag behaviour operates the same way. These men (whether purposefully or not) are targeting vulnerable people who are either unaware, insecure, disadvantaged or young enough that they overlook the immediate issues. It’s a way for abusive men to target “easier” victims right out of the gate. Everyone else is just a 99% fail rate that can be written off. It only has to work a few times in 100 to make spamming it easier than putting in actual work to connect with another person (or improve themselves).
It makes it that much sadder to see guys “recommending” these tactics to “win any girl” - because they’re not trying to win any girl. They’re trying to weed out the most vulnerable women and prey on them.