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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/cowskin– on 2023-08-04 07:58:14.
Growing up, I never thought I was even remotely attractive. I had a few close friends but mostly kept to myself. After puberty hit, everything changed; most men that I met were overly engaging and complimentary of my appearance, personality or intelligence. Being a teen/young adult, I found it fairly flattering. Now, it rubs me the wrong way. When somebody I’ve just met comments about how my intelligence surprises them, I get defensive and generally say something like “why? did you expect me to be incompetent?”. This has lead to several tense conversations that basically end in me being called cold or a bitch. Am I being overreactive? Those of you that relate, what are your thoughts or experiences?