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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwaway_italygirl on 2023-08-03 21:28:46.
My friend and I went out to dinner recently in Italy (where we are visiting), where we were sat next to a table extremely close to us. It consisted of a group of 4 Americans, so they were obviously on holiday together as well.
As soon as one girl from their group left for the bathroom (let’s call her Hannah), the other 3 friends started immediately talking shit about her. Some examples include: calling her ditzy, annoying for crying while they were abroad, failing a class at school, and talking with negative connotation towards her having sex. One of them asked to be told when Hannah was coming back so they would have warning of when to stop badmouthing.
My friend and I immediately felt very bad for the girl and agreed we would not want to be in a lifelong friendship with people that secretly hated her. We decided we wanted to let Hannah know the situation before we left.
As we were leaving, my friend verified that Hannah was the girl in question they were referring to and I proceeded to let her know what happened while she was in the bathroom and told her I would want someone to tell me if I were in her shoes. One of the friends of Hannah immediately started yelling (saying “you don’t know shit about shit”). Hannah seemed grateful that I told her. My friend and I headed out immediately afterwards.
They seemed pretty young so it’s likely Hannah is probably sharing a hotel room with some of these people currently on her international trip so I feel bad she has to deal with that. However, in my position, I would rather deal with having an awkward end of my trip with the knowledge that the people I’m with hate me so I can cut them off, rather than unknowingly staying in their lives. AITA?