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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Mike-jones777 on 2023-08-03 22:51:00.
(repost due to formating breaking on previous thread, my apologies.)
I have a big problem and I’m not sure what options I have left, but considering this is the largest sub of women and supporters on Reddit I’m aware of, I’m hoping a solution comes up as I’m in complete panic right now.
I’m in a smaller-size community mostly Mormon. Very devoted Mormon that often will push marriages and shun or neglect people who don’t fall in line, especially women like myself, and socially it’s very tight so you don’t have any impartial neighbors or anyone else in the area.
My mother and the father of this one guy I’ll name J, believe J is a perfect candidate for marriage for myself. I’ve never agreed with the lifestyle of my Mother or the rest of the community and outside a few close calls, have managed to successfully for the most part prevent My Mom, Dad, or any one else in the community from seeing anything amiss so far.
Recently J had invited me for lunch which I went to in order to not raise suspicion, when I arrived I was concerned that we were alone but didn’t expect anything bad to happen. After some drinks he started making moves on me and I wasn’t fully aware of what he was trying to do. To the point: He gave me a few more drinks and had sex with me. I was pissed off when I sobered up hours later and stormed out but I couldn’t really tell anyone because what he did was not seen as abuse around here.
He was proud of what he did and let people know which reached my Mother who told me that she was glad I “accepted” (NO!) to settle-in with who they had already though was a good candidate for me. Expecting me to cancel my previous college ambitions if I had happened to end up pregnant.
This is the core of my anxiety, I had been through a program with mutuals planning to leave my town and state to go to school in Portland aiming for a bachelors degree minimum. Because it’s common here for women to settle-in a family my parents initially didn’t approve, but eventually broke and said they would help “minimally” of getting things set-up to move out, and the tuition, but almost everything else I would have to find my own way of solving.
I accepted this because I had been wanting to use this event as an excuse to permanently leave this backwards swamp for good. Hopefully getting a job out there and staying miles away from all the pressure, stress, panic attacks, and mistreatment I’ve had to deal with, while getting my education.
However, if I end up pregnant then all that is out the window and I will be severely pressured, or rather pushed into marriage like my older Sister was. Her situation was different but she too was against her wishes, put in a situation she couldn’t handle and the family disassociated with her and she ended up homeless for awhile before ending up elsewheryears e. My Mother hasn’t even said her name in almost 5 years, and I haven’t seen her since. Yes, if you don’t go along with what’s expected then you lose your support.
My biggest issue is to prevent the pregnancy I need to get something that can prevent the pregnancy such as Plan B or other brands. However, in my town there is only one pharma-based store that even has these as others have dropped carrying them. The price which is intentional to “help” women stay correct, costs $70 which I cannot afford. Without my own car I don’t have other options.
I spend hours panicking and losing sleep looking for solutions on Reddit, Facebook, medical forums, I even called hotlines, and almost all solutions that come up revolve around delivery and mail.
The problem is mail is not possible. Because my family intercepts the mail and know to be suspicious of sudden packages. This was something my sister had to deal with as well (for condoms) years ago. They will find and discard the contraceptive and who knows what they will do with me after that. I could be thrown out!
I need to find another option to prevent pregnancy but I have no idea what to do and I haven’t found anything that doesn’t involve mail delivery or a phone number that has me talking with an organization that also centers around mailing the product. I went to a few local places for loans or credit card that can be received in-person today or by tomorrow noon so I can purchase form the pharmacy, but they denied me because of lack of credit history.
I also only have maybe 35-40 hours to take it before I’ll be pregnant, and as soon as that is detected my whole life goes to hell. if I can find a way to be able to get the contraceptive another way, or to find a way to get some sort of loan to buy the $70 one at my local store, than I can avoid this entire thing, and on Aug 17th when I leave here for the west coast, I can finally be rid of all of this trauma for good.
I’m trying my best to try and stay focused searching for a solution but even now it took me much longer to type this than It should because I’m a nervous wreck right now, even my hobbies aren’t doing much. If anyone can help with this it’s much appreciated!