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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/DeCryingShame on 2023-08-03 20:58:37.
My ex used to treat me like I was lazy because I didn’t wait on him hand and foot after we both came home from school and work. I went from being a straight A student who could also hold down a part-time job to someone who believed that I had nothing to offer anyone of value. I stopped even trying and this stayed with me for years after the divorce.
A couple of years ago I started a part time job at a place that helps people get out of poverty. The culture in the workplace was super supportive and encouraging, and that was directed toward the employees as well as the program participants. They pointed out my strengths and showed gratitude, even when my work wasn’t completely up to par.
This experience was transformative. I realize now that I do have good things to offer and I deserve to be treated with respect.
What experiences have you had where an abuser lied to you? How did you recognize it and get past it?