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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Mimikim1234 on 2023-08-03 15:35:56.
So I thought I finally met a nice guy, but now I’m not so sure.
My father taught me how to do things like car maintenance (from changing a flat, to the incredibly complex act of putting windshield fluid in, lol), how to use tools, etc.
My dad always said he didn’t want me to have to depend on a man to do these simple things for me.
However, I’ve noticed, and not just with this guy, that it seems to make him feel resentful when I do these things myself.
Conversely, in the past, asking for help has resulted in a “sigh, women can’t take care of things” attitude.
Recently, I had mentioned I purchased a lift top coffee table, and put it together myself. I sent him a pic of the assembled table when I was done.
While a second person would’ve been helpful, I used chairs and a step stool to hold pieces up during the more difficult parts of assembly.
I was proud of having done it myself.
He never offered to help. But after the fact, he said “Why didn’t you ask me? I should’ve done that for you, you probably did it wrong,” and has been “pouty” ever since.
He even accused me of having another guy help me, but apologized for saying that.
One, I wasn’t comfortable with him coming over so soon, and two, I’m perfectly capable of putting together a TABLE.
I am thinking this one needs to be thrown back in the sea. But maybe my past trauma is leaking through, and I’m overreacting?