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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/HollywoodPirate on 2023-08-03 06:02:51.

We met back in Feb 2021 and at first everything was great he was interested in getting to know me and things were great. We actually went out places for dates and had fun together. Suddenly it shifted to where we never went out anywhere. All we did was hook up and watch movies at his place. I’m ok with chilling but everytime I suggested we go to a park or maybe go out to eat he didn’t want to. In the beginning he would text and call regularly. As time went on it was less and less and the answers got shorter and shorter. I would text things like hey how are you or would send conversational texts and nothing. It got the point where I would only hear from him if he wanted me to come over to do the same ass crap we always did. There were times I wouldn’t hear from him for weeks. I gave up texting him at that point and honestly just wanted to be done about a year in but my stupid self decided to stay in hope things would improve or go back to how they were.

During this time I never met any of his friends. I never met any of his family. I never really went outside his house with him hand in hand anywhere. He never had that talk with me where we defined any sort of relationship. He did get mad once when I didn’t respond to his texts and he got weirdly jealous thinking I had gone and found a boyfriend or something. Umm no I thought that’s what we kind of were to one another a couple but idk because everytime I would hint about that topic conversation would change.

The biggest thing that got me was that I caught him looking at other women on a supposed meet up site I think it was called meetup. I saw it before but didn’t say anything at the moment. He was clicking on these womens photos and zooming in on them when I was right next to him. I got annoyed and called him out for it and he got defensive saying it was for business purposes. He said he had his own business but I don’t know what it was because he was always secretive about everything.

He one time asked to borrow $1.5k from me for poker and I told him no. He told me once that poker was his job but I don’t believe him. I think he was doing shady stuff personally but I can’t prove it.

Oh yeah another thing was that he would film me without my consent during sex. I’d be doing something and next thing you know I have a phone in my face when I looked up. I didn’t like it but was too afraid to say anything. To this day I have no idea where the videos are if they ever left his phone or not.

I was also afraid to break up with him in person or via text so I just blocked his number and cut ties that way. I tried ignoring him before but it didn’t work and got sent a bunch of angry texts. That was after the time I got mad at him for looking at those other women. I got suckered back in to staying when I really didn’t want to but I was afraid of breaking ties. I haven’t spoken to him since March and I’m keeping it that way.

Another weird thing is the one time I thought I was going to meet his parents we went over to his mothers apartment. Well he asked me to meet him there because he was doing some work over there. Nobody was home but him. I didn’t want to but I got pressured into sex on his mothers bed which I really was uncomfortable with. I don’t even think she knew I was there because she never met me. I felt disgusting after that.