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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Either_Water_814 on 2023-08-03 00:26:02.
My husband and I have rented a beach house for the next two weeks. The primary purpose of this trip is to take my eleven year old neice and her fourteen year old brother. Their father has been in hospital and between my sister having to run back and forth and work, they really haven’t had a the chance to have a “real” summer. They’re both really excited and happy to be here.
The beach house has four rooms, so originally my husband and I in one, each of them get their own and there would have been an extra.
My husband’s sister Mary is a single mom to his seventeen year old neice, Ava. When she heard about the trip, she asked if she could tag along. We originally said no but she kept pushing and pushing, and eventually we said they could come for a few days, but they had to be okay with sharing a room and bed.
When they arrived Ava threw a fit about having to share the bed. To be fair, it’s a lot smaller then we’d anticipated (seems like full sized). Mary began suggesting, and then they both began demanding, that Ava should get her own room and my neice and nephew should share while they’re here. Her logic was that Ava is older and therefore should get dibs on her own room. I said no. The specific goal of this vacation is for my neice and nephew and they are priorities in this situation. I said Ava could sleep on the pull-out couch which was also rejected.
We went to the beach today and they hung back, and Ava had been hanging out in neices room. I told her if she wants to do that she can ask my neice, and my neice said she doesn’t want her in there, so I said she’s not allowed in there. That led to another fight and now Ava and Mary and stomping around and sulking.
My husband and I both feel that this is totally fair. If the plan had originally been for Ava and Mary to come then I’d get that generally the older kid gets priority, but in this case as I said this trip is specifically designed for my neice and nephew to have the best time possible.
AITA?