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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Alternative-Print804 on 2023-08-03 00:17:19.
My (39f) and my husband Tim (45m) along with our 9yo and 8mo are in the process of moving. Earlier today, Tim texted me telling me to meet him at our condo (the home we’re moving out of) over his lunch break. (The place we’re moving to is about 45 minutes away.) Tim then said he had to be quick as he had a 1pm meeting. We met at the condo at 12 and that’s when he told me he needed me to stay there until he got off work at 6pm. I told him I could not as I’d only packed 1 bottle and light snacks for the baby, needed to go grocery shopping and he knew I needed to be at the new house because internet was due to be installed today.
Tim got angry and said that common sense, especially when we’re moving should have told me I needed to stick around. That I’m being stupid by wasting gas, I drive an SUV, and he had planned to pack the back of it full. I told him that he’d never mentioned to me that he needed me to stay, and his lack of communication is not my fault. Plus he already new I needed to go grocery shopping and meet the internet guy at the new place. He spent the rest of the afternoon texting me how I’m lazy and irresponsible for not staying at the condo, that he could have put a lot in my SUV and it’s unfair he’s trying to fit so much in his car. I kept reiterating that his lack of communication is not my fault. Tim called me petty and told me to grow up and actually think things through.
AITA?
Edit: Tim and I didn’t swap cars because I have a very hard time getting the infant carrier in and out of his coupe. I have EDS (ehlers danlos syndrome) and it’s a struggle enough for me to get it in and out of my SUV. Currently recovering from a dislocated shoulder and clavicle.