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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/FuntasticSMLife on 2023-08-03 03:14:35.
My bf (27M) started avoiding sex with me (27F) since around 4 months ago.
When we had a talk, he said he is very frustrated by the fact that while he has never had problems with making women orgasm with his dick alone, but with me that’s simply impossible.
Then we went through some cases and we found out few times he was able to make me come with his dick, but he still says that’s single digit and very low.
Also says some things like I feel loose compared to others and it takes away his feelings.
Some other issues he had were: our sex is quite in one format, I don’t want to have anal sex, our sex is too typical as it should feel natural but we go straight ahead to intercourse etc.
The fact is, this all started happening after he began a very stressful study course which he describes as “the most traumatic experience in his life”.
I am quite hurt. First of all, if he found that as problem, why not working out on solutions such as watching some videos and practice together to find out positions, or speak about the issue? Or if he feels our sex pattern is repeated, then try something new. As he was keep avoiding sex, I felt really discouraged about initiating sex.
His dick is bit smaller compared to my previous partners so perhaps it’s better to focus on skills. I’ve never told that since I was worried whether it hurts his feelings. Also, he always said I’m tight and then now saying I’m loose after I told him that his dick is smaller. Also, I did anal with him and told him I don’t feel that much through ass.
Previously, I felt like I’m the hottest woman in bed with my man and our sex is the best thing ever, with my previous partners. Now, I feel worthless as women.
I can’t stop thinking that he is blaming me for his internal reasons such as external stress due to his study. His unwillingness to find solutions together, but avoiding sex without telling me anything also discourages me. Thinking back how passionately he said about making me cum with his dick alone was easily single digit and that’s quite low, or our sex is boring… that just makes me want to cry, tbh.
We had this talk 2 days ago.
On top of other issues, I am on the brink of breaking up with him. Please advice what should I do. Is it worth fixing the issue with him or just breaking up?