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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Equivalent-Tree2A on 2023-08-02 22:09:15.
Throwaway and I’ll try to keep things relatively short
My (M34) younger brother, Matt (M31), was engaged to this woman, Emma (F30), for the past year. Everyone in our family, my sister parents and myself, thought they were a perfect match. Emma was very polite, well educated, had a great family whom we had met a few times, and was head over heels for Matt.
Fast forward to three months ago, and Emma finds out Matt cheated on her with this other woman, Cindy (F25). Needless to say, the marriage has been called off, and everyone has been beyond angry with Matt.
Our parents haven’t spoken to Matt since the fallout of what’s happened, and even I have only spoken to him twice (each call lasting less than 5 minutes) since then. Our sister has also not spoken with him either.
This morning, I received a call from Matt saying that he wanted to reconcile with the family. He mentioned how upset and depressed he’s been since making “the worst mistake of his life” and how much he regrets his actions. I was listening up until this point, but got annoyed when he started mentioning how also Cindy wants to meet our parents and the rest of us.
He told me that he left our parents a voicemail a few days ago, but they haven’t responded, and that he feels isolated from our family. I point blank told him that he only had himself to blame for this and that he clearly didn’t think what he did was a mistake since he was still with Cindy.
He said he just wanted us to give them a chance, but I told him I had to go to work and left the call while he was finishing a sentence as I was very frustrated with him.
AITA?