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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Affectionate-Flan140 on 2023-08-02 20:38:09.
I was dating this guy for a little over a year and i overlooked so many comments he made about me.
In the moment, they definitely felt like little jabs but i grew up with a father who was my biggest bully, so i had a tendency to overlook the severity of it.
I was going through weight gain after the pandemic and struggling with PCOS/ endometriosis symptoms. I would often be extremely bloated. He would often ‘stomach check me’
“oh let me feel your stomach. Wow you’re not even THAT bloated today”
When I would eat the same foods as him he would say “you sure are fucking that food up huh”
We would go to the beach and i would be exhausted from the sun and needed to take multiple breaks walking long distances.
He said word for word while we were walking “you should just become a BBW And accept it.”
I opened up about my health issues and trouble working out. I asked him many times if my weight was an issue and he denied adamantly. I just came across the term “negging” and it’s literally passive aggressive snark that men use as a tactic to question your self esteem.
For a long time i thought i was really self conscious and analyzing things too hard, but i realized he was doing it purposely.