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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/suchawasteofspace on 2023-08-02 13:30:51.
Background: I (24F) married my husband (23M) last month. It was a beautiful ceremony. I am currently 27 weeks pregnant, I was 24 weeks at the wedding. My sister (28 F) was not invited. She has substance abuse issues and undiagnosed BPD. She also has a history of physically assaulting me.
My parents invited my sister despite myself and my now husband not wanting her at my wedding. They insisted the whole time they would watch her and swore she’d be on her best behavior. She ended up going off multiple times, causing several huge scenes and when my MOH asked if I wanted her removed my parents wouldn’t let me ask her to leave because “she had no way of getting home”. When all of these behaviors happened my parents shrugged it off and said “sorry we can’t control her actions”. The entire night before the wedding and day of she was coughing on everything. She even got sent home from work the day before but insisted it was allergies. She ended up getting me and my husband sick and we spent our wedding night and the next night in the ER. My parents keep insisting she had allergies and couldn’t have been the one to get me sick. They keep insisting I had allergies too and only went to the hospital because I didn’t want to clean up afterwards. So, every time I talk to my mom now she asks if I have sent out “thank you” cards. I am so tempted to write my sister one saying thanks for getting us sick and endangering our unborn child. BTW she will never be in our lives or near me or my family again. I know this will bring me a mountain of shit from my parents but I am so tired of being railroaded every time I say I don’t want to be around her. I can also add wayyy more details if anyone wants them. So obviously its petty but maybe worth it. Am I the asshole?