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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Grouchy-Mud3102 on 2023-08-01 22:58:10.

Three years ago I moved to rural Alaska from Utah with my husband. We both grew up in a certain church which forbids alcohol, tea, tobacco, coffee, etc. We are no longer members of this church, however, the majority of our friends and family are very devout.

Over the years, we have hosted many friends and family members and they all understand that my husband and I reserve the right to drink alcohol/coffee tea and use other recreational products in our own home. We do not over consume in front of people, I am talking a glass of wine with dinner or a little gummy before bed. It has never been an issue for visitors and sometimes they join in if they are in a safe, non-judgement area.

However…my cousin informed me this morning that she bought plane tickets for her and her family of 6 to come out over Labor Day and that she expects us to hide all of our liquor, our coffee maker and refrain from drinking any alcohol, coffee, tea, etc while they visit as she has young children.

I never invited her. In fact, I haven’t spoken to her in years so I am confused as to why she thinks she can come whenever with her entire family. I reluctantly told her she can stay for 2 nights but they need to be gone during the days as my husband and I work from home. I also told her that she is overstepping by expecting to use my home while making me uncomfortable to be in my own home. It is very upsetting to me that she would ask that when I felt for years I wasn’t allowed to make my own choices due to religion. I am not about to skip a glass of wine because her precious kids can’t see responsible alcohol use. Not to mention, do these kids not look around and see booze and coffee at restaurants? Give me a break.

She threw a huge fit and is crying to my mom that I must have an alcohol problem and that I was so mean and now they can’t come because they can’t afford a hotel and the tickets are non-refundable. My mom called and berated me and called me alcoholic and drug addict because I “can’t” stop using. I can, and I often do, but if someone is in my home, they cannot dictate my actions. My mom says I am the asshole for disrespecting their beliefs. But I would like the opinons of redditors. So, AITA