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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/dvh82685 on 2023-08-01 20:16:24.
I have a friend group of 7 women from uni. I’m the only one that’s childfree, but 1 is childless, 2 are pregnant with their first and 3 have kids.
We as a group rarely meet up. I’ve seen all of them maybe twice in the last year, and we all live in the same city. Every time someone asks to meet up and we finally find a date everyone is available, one of the moms always asks if they can bring their child, or children. Its usually 1 of 2 moms, as the third actually wants to have a kid free evening. And before anyone else can answer, the other mom says yes. All 3 moms have husbands who can watch their kids. Most of them also have both sets of grandparents who are involved. But somehow they never manage to find someone who can “babysit”, as they call it.
So at this point I’ve stopped answering until they’ve set a time and place, someone has asked about kids, and I say I can’t make it. I hang out with them one on one, or in smaller groups instead.
Well a few days ago we agreed to finally meet up. No one had asked about kids and we were having a bbq and wine night. We’ll, who shows up with their 8 year old? Yep, one of the moms. I clearly didn’t hide my annoyance and one of the girls asked me why. I just waved it off and 30 min later I excused myself and left. Said I didn’t feel well. In those 30 min we hadn’t had any “adult talk”, we were just entertaining the kid. I would rather go home thsn do this for another 3-4 hours.
After I left, I think they realised this was a pattern and I got text from most of the girls in the group. Some calling me an asshole, others just saying they were annoyed with me for leaving, while the third mom having my back, and asked to meet up later that week to have a proper wine night.
I don’t hate kids at all. I work with them every day and don’t want to spend my time off, relaxing with friend, having to entertain other people’s kids again.
AITA?