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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Green-Ad5506 on 2023-08-01 17:00:45.
AITA for saying NO to the neighbor’s kids when they ask for food?
A new family moved into our neighborhood a few months ago. They have 5 year-old twins and an 8 year-old. They became really good friends with my child (6) which has been great.
The new family are renters and came from a rough area of the city. From what I could gather (have not met them) they wanted a better school district for their kids and I applaud them the sacrifice they are doing for their kids. It is my understanding rent is upwards of $3,000 and both of them have blue collar jobs. I believe one of the older kids also works to help make rent. I think they have 6 kids, some are adults and live with them.
As expected, these children have seen more things and have a lot more street smarts than my child. For example, I’ve talked to the 8YO and he mentioned witnessing some fucked up things where he used to live: drugs, prostitution shootings, etc.
I started to notice every time these children come over to our house, they pretty much devour all the snacks and food they can. I told them from now on it is ONE snack and that’s it. What the kids do now is have my child sneak out food for them. They’re also coming over pretty much daily.
Now, I understand these kids have had it rough. They’re pretty much unsupervised all day, they have an older sister that’s supposed to take care of them but TikTok is more important. They may not have food security but AITA for wanting to put an end to this? My wife thinks it’s petty but, why do I need to provide a free all-inclusive daycare to these folks? No one handed me anything at any point in my life, why should I?
Also, I thought about talking to the parents but, how do I do it without deteriorating the relationship the kids have? I still want my child to hang out with them as it is a positive relationship.
EDIT: IT’S NOT ONLY SNACKS. IT’S ACTUAL FOOD AS WELL.