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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/rrracheldeanne on 2023-08-01 09:55:13.
I (25F) have a boyfriend who I live with and a few roommates, one of which is the friend (23M) in this situation. I have known this friend for over 2 years now and we get along fine besides the occasional roommate drama stuff but there has never been any weirdness or anything before. Today we were the only ones home, both off of work and I was watching tv in the living room when he joined me.
We had normal roommate/friend conversation while sitting there for a few hours when I got a text from my gyno about making an appointment. I just said out loud that I wasn’t excited about that visit bc of the Pap smear I knew was coming. He got super curious about it since he didn’t know what that was and was asking questions like ‘do they give you pain meds’ or ‘is it different with different birth control’. I told him the story about getting my IUD placed and how it didn’t really hurt. He then went on to ask about if the string from an IUD hangs out or if I had to basically finger myself to see if it was still there. I was thrown so off guard by that but then I glanced down and I noticed he had pushed his pants to the side and was touching himself. I froze and almost didn’t really believe that is what I was seeing. He just kept asking weird questions/comments like ‘does my boyfriend feel it when we have sex’ and ‘I bet it’s awesome that we don’t have to use condoms’ while still doing that.
I got off the couch and ran over to the fridge to pretend like I was making food to create distance between us. I got an alert from my phone that my boyfriend just got home and I very loudly said oh yay __ is home and just hoping he would stop since he was going to get caught. I basically was my boyfriend’s shadow while we walked to our room and my boyfriend even make a comment like ‘ oh you are sticking to me like second skin’. The roommate ran to his room and I haven’t seen him since which is fine by me. I still haven’t told my boyfriend but I feel really just uneasy and violated and pissed off that he felt he had the right to just do that.