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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/barbiepinkskies on 2023-08-01 06:31:00.
F(30) Over the years I have thought about this off and on. I understand the argument that porn is just a tool to help people get off. Or that your partner isn’t comparing you because you are real and they are not. I’ve heard all the justifications. I’ve tried to be cool with it.
But, I only tried to be cool with it because I’ve been shamed into hearing, “thats just what men do,” over the years. This statement always invalidates my feelings and makes me feel like I am a crazy girlfriend with low self esteem. These statements from men always left me feeling worse. It made me feel like there was something wrong with me because I can’t just naturally being okay with my partner watching porn. It’s the one argument that men always say that makes me want to scream. “You’re insecure. It’s what men do. It doesn’t mean anything.” I’m so tired of women being told we are insecure when maybe it’s the man who is feeding that insecurity.