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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Awildnoraappears on 2023-07-31 20:45:08.

Last year, a lot of terrible things happened. I won’t go into detail with everything, but among other things, I experienced a sexual assault, was cheated on, emotionally abused, had revenge porn filmed of me and my nudes spread and shared to people in my ex’s group, and had my journals and life’s work stolen and spread to people with bad intentions.

Yet still, after all of this, I’m blamed because my ex (and his friend, who I didn’t know was friends with my ex until he formed a fake relationship with me to do everything ex #1 did all over again) projected his own cheating and manipulation onto me and blamed me for the way I reacted to what they did.

They’ve somehow managed to convince a good portion of people that I deserved it. I feel like this should be a cut-and-dry case where it’s clear that what they did is unjustifiable. I wouldn’t have reacted if they didn’t do what they did to begin with, right?

I think it all goes back to this world’s attitudes about women. This world hates women, whether we want to acknowledge it or not. And yes, not all men are like this. Not all men view women this way. A lot of men have been very supportive and understanding. But still, a concerningly large portion of people can and will justify just about anything a woman experiences because she’s a “cunt.” And I wholeheartedly detest that.

I wonder just how many of these people would flip on a dime if this happened to their daughter, sister, or mother. How many of these people would even care if this was their girlfriend or wife talking about a past relationship? Would they still justify it and think that their loved one deserved it? The saddest part is that I can’t answer that question.

(Can we also discuss how and why sexual abuse in relationships is seen as normal? Why should it be normal for your partner to SA or sexually harass you and it’s supposed to be okay just because you’re in a relationship?)