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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/NecessaryAct35 on 2023-07-31 18:01:48.
My husband 30m and I 28f have been married for 2 years, together for 5 years, and currently 6 months pregnant. We are very excited and blessed because I’ve had some complications in getting pregnant. I have a very good relationship with my in laws and if any of us ever had problem, we are able to talk it through. Except for one thing. My mother in law has her famous mac and cheese that everyone in her family absolutely loves.
I, however, found it disgusting on day 1 but I didn’t want to come off as rude and ungrateful so I pulled through it without saying anything. I told my husband about it and he said that his mother has been making it for decades perfecting the recipe and she would be deeply offended if anyone told her anything bad about her mac and cheese so I should just find the right moment to tell her. He for some reason loves it, so he didn’t want to be the one to tell her. Which I totally understand because it is MY issue and I had to deal with it. It’s been almost 2 years of me pretending.
So 2 days ago I’ve decided to just tell her. It was a family dinner where my husband’s parents had invited us over and of course, his mother was making her so-called “famous mac and cheese”. I almost threw up at the smell and I couldn’t bear the thought of eating it, probably because I was pregnant.
So at dinner, when I was offered the mac and cheese, I politely declined and said “no thank you”. My mother in law looked at me and asked “why? You should eat. Good for the baby”. And I just went right out with it “I’m sorry, but I don’t like your mac and cheese. Everything else tastes delicious, but this is the one thing I simply cannot eat anymore”. She looked so deeply offended and she literally snapped “well, thanks for being honest” and didn’t even look or speak to me for the rest of the evening. My husband was on my side and tried to speak to his mother, but all I know is that it didn’t work because she has been cold to me ever since.
What was wrong with the mac and cheese? Her “perfecting the recipe” ended up with this result: mac and cheese combined with salmon, kimchi, pineapple, seaweed salad, collard greens, onions, and garlic. I don’t have a problem with the greens or onion, but the rest tastes so disgustingly wrong with mac and cheese. However, the reason why I think I might have been an asshole is because like my husband said, she has been perfecting this recipe for years, her entire family clearly loves it, and I tell her that her “perfected and loved” mac and cheese is terrible.
Am I the Asshole?
Edit. I did tell her that because I was pregnant it wasn’t possible for me to stomach the ingredients, but she still didn’t want to talk to me.