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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/DragonflySouth4310 on 2023-07-31 11:02:14.
This is ridiculous and I can’t believe I have to ask if I’m an asshole, but here we go.
I (f27) have been together with my husband Nate for over 10 years and married for 4. I don’t have the best relationship with my MIL as she always seem to police what I eat.
Everyone in my family have fast metabolism, I am also working with horses so due to this burn a lot of calories (talking about 2.5-3k a day) and usually have rather large meals to get the energy back and I still remain skinny.
Now to the event. My in-laws invited me and Nate for dinner last Friday. I was very busy back then and haven’t eaten since about 6-7am and also didn’t have a chance to have a snack before heading to the restaurant so I was starving (I usually have something to eat before seeing my MIL to avoid her comments). Due to this I have ordered a large steak at the restaurant which was meant for 2 people, it also came with prawns, bacon and 2 sides. Please note it was not the most expensive item on the menu as some of my in laws had significantly pricier dishes and we were all splitting the bill anyway.
My MIL started making comments how I shouldn’t be ordering what I can’t eat since even her husband wouldn’t be able to finish the dish, let alone someone my size. I smiled and said I haven’t eaten since early morning and am starving, if I don’t finish the steak I will take the leftovers home.
I have easily finished the steak and was waiting for my dessert, when my MIL flipped. She said I am attention seeking and was putting on a show, she also said I have made my FIL and BIL feel uneasy and that a woman shouldn’t eat that much, it is unhealthy and something is wrong with me. She has then demanded me and Nate to cover the entire bill as she wasn’t planning on “such a big expenditure”. I said we are absolutely not covering the entire bill since it was meant to be split equally and reminded her of the dishes she ordered, that were significantly more expensive compared to my steak (including her starter). As a result I was called an asshole who has ruined a family dinner.
Nate is on my side but most of my in-laws are making very passive aggressive posts on social media about it and keep sending me different articles of “what might cause excessive eating”.