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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/11LeafClover on 2023-07-30 10:43:17.
I (27F) am marrying my fiancé (32F) in 2 weeks. My partner has autism and struggles with loud noises, she also has trauma from when she was a child and cannot hear children cry or it gives her extreme anxiety. Based off this, our wedding will be child free but we have hired out a hall that’s a 30 second walk from the reception where we have hired nannies and fun activities for the kids on the day for those who cannot afford a nanny.
Everyone was okay with these terms EXCEPT my Mom, she deemed it as ridiculous and kicked up a fuss about it at many family gatherings prior to our wedding. It got a point where my Mom would openly insult us to the family whilst we were in the room, just the other day my fiance snapped after my Mom called me a "Bridezilla’ for depriving my nieces and nephews from the experience of a wedding.
I had never seen my fiancé so angry. My Mom tried to play the victim after my fiance called her out, asking me how I could let her talk to her like that- I simply replied ‘abide by the rules of our wedding or don’t come at all, if you’re going to continue to act like a child you can sit out the wedding in a ball pit like the rest of the kids.’ To which I then left.
My Mom won’t stop sending me texts telling me that after all these years of her raising me this is how I repay her, which then switched to her posting Facebook posts captioned as ‘I guess I’m a bad Mother for wanting my grand babies with me’. My fiance has blocked her on everything and has said she doesn’t want her at the wedding if she thinks it’s okay to berate me like that. So, AITA?