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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Necessary_End_6464 on 2023-07-30 10:28:21.
I went on a wonderful first date on Tuesday with a man I thought I could see potential with. We were on the same page, had deep conversation, he showed up with flowers. I was a bit taken aback by that yet I loved it. He behaved like a gentleman and there was consistent conversation from both of us afterwards and talk of planning a second date.
Imagine my surprise when he had a complete meltdown today. I woke up and immediately started a long day of cleaning and reorganizing. He texted me in the early afternoon asking for a selfie of me. I sent him one I had in my phone while I was in the midst of painting a cabinet hours later. He got upset because apparently I had sent that picture before and actually demanded I take one right then. I told him I was currently in the middle of painting furniture.
He proceeded to berate me, accuse me of not being interested in him or doing anything for him. Up until that point, I was very interested. I had even had the thought of preserving those flowers because if we ended up being in a relationship, I thought it would have been cute to still have them instead of tossing them out. I have talked to him more than anyone else in my personal life this week but apparently that was not good enough. He threw in a bunch of expletives, told me I wasn’t a good woman, and fuck me and my furniture.
I didn’t engage other than to say I agree, we are done here if this is how he behaves while he continued to blow up my phone with insults. I am very analytical and observe people quietly yet I did not see this coming. I have obviously dodged a bullet of someone who is clearly controlling, possibly abusive, and expects me to be at their beck and call. It’s disheartening and makes me want to give up on dating. That was the first date I had been on in over six months because I vet and weed out people. Clearly I didn’t vet enough on him. Moral of the story, flowers and chivalry and communication apparently don’t mean shit because someone will pull the wool over your eyes. I guess I just needed to vent.