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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/eightdollartoast on 2023-07-30 03:40:58.
My (42F) daughter (20F) lives in an area we just moved from. We got a house with a bonus room with the agreement it would serve as both an office and a space for my daughter to sleep when she visits. Then my husband’s friend got a large, obtrusive desk and my husband said he was going to get it. At first I was against it, but my husband’s current desk really is cramped and he deserves an upgrade. With the new desk/treadmill combo there won’t be space for a futon, sofabed, daybed, or Murphy bed. Maybe an air mattress could work if I block a doorway. Her other options would be to share a bed with one of the younger kids (11M, 10F, 6M) or a sofabed on the ground floor in the living space (though that could be problematic because my husband wants a comfortable sofa to use the PlayStation from and hasn’t found a sofabed that’s soft enough while in couch mode). I talked to my daughter and she became really anxious that she wouldn’t have a room in our new house. I feel like I’ve chosen my husband over my daughter, and I’m really emotional over it. AITA?