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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Professionalbiter on 2023-07-29 18:47:12.
So I just started a new job. I feel a male coworker is being inappropriate, but I am unsure if I should tell my boss or if I should just ignore him and hope for the best.
For context, the extent of our interaction in person has been me introducing myself when he came in for his shift a few days ago. Since then I have said hello to him twice (just like I would do with any coworker) when he has come in for his shift while I was leaving mine.
But today I got a facebook friend request from this person, and I noticed he is now following me on instagram. What bugs me the most is I never told him my last name, so he would of had to of gone to our sign in sheet to find it, which i find creepy as fuck.
I have had guys be overtly creepy before in a similar manner, and know that if I don’t make strong nos now it could escalate. For instance, like when I used a cab service that used an app where the driver is given my first and last name. A driver for that company wrote down my name to friend request me later too (I figured it out because their own names are listed in the cab order history, and it matched the friend request), and saved my phone number and would call me. I stopped using that cab service because what the actual fuck ew.
Anyways, because I am new at this job and this person is on a different shift, I am wondering if I should make any noise about it now to nip it in the butt. I have thought about mentioning I am engaged in passing if I ever get in conversation with him, but feel that I shouldn’t have to to get him to back off. And concerning telling my boss, I am also worried because I am a brand new hire who may be seen as bringing drama to the workplace. Any advice?